The issue of whether children should be at a wedding is something that is very personal. There’s no one set answer to the question, and every couple will have their own opinion. Whether you choose to have a “no kids” policy or invite full families to your wedding, it can create some confusion. While it’s easy to say “no children” or “children welcome” these extremes aren’t always the best solution.
If you’re considering a no kids rule for your wedding, it can be worth thinking about why you don’t want children there. Is it so the parents can relax and enjoy themselves? Is it to cut back on the costs? Is it for fear of disruptions?
Many parents appreciate the chance to decide whether or not to bring their children to a wedding. Many will appreciate the time away, but some will find that leaving the kids at home simply isn’t possible. Parents of breastfed babies, for example, might be unable to arrange for their baby to eat while in somebody else’s care. During the height of wedding season, many parents might find that their go-to childcare option has a wedding to go to themselves!
One thing to consider, as well, is who the parents are. You can choose to allow family members and members of the wedding party to bring their children, but limit it to these kids. Most of your guests will understand the distinction and it is easily explained if anyone questions why they couldn’t bring their child along, too.
Whatever you decide, make sure it is something that works for you and your fiance. Even if it means that a few guests have to decline, the important thing is to have the wedding you want! To find out more ways to get the wedding you want, come to one of our New England wedding shows!
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